Lifestyle: Early Morning Hikes

I can’t sleep in anymore, it is a proven fact. So instead of sitting around on my butt, I decided to be active. So loading the dogs and my husband in the car we set off for an easy hike. The trail we went on was only 2.7 miles so if we added it up we only hiked 5.4. It’s been almost a year since I’ve hiked anything so we took it slow since we are trying to get into the groove of it.

While the scenery was not much to look at, as it was mostly hills with bushes, it was really the cool fresh air I was breathing and the conversation that was the main focus. Just taking time out to enjoy nature and the simple things in life is what makes times like these special. The only time I had my phone on me was to quickly take these pictures and then I just put it away. I almost snapchatted, but I decided not to. I just wanted to live in the moment and enjoy. I did a post on Instagram but that was much later.

Sometimes we need to remember that there are simple things we can do to make ourselves happy.

Lifestyle: Weekend Traditions

Since moving to Idaho we have tried to make our new house feel like a home. It’s just my husband and me, so we try to make each other feel special. In order to do so, we have adopted a couple of traditions to make sure we don’t get homesick. Some we do together, others we do separately.

Saturday Morning Breakfast.

This is a huge breakfast that we make and eat together. It usually involves coffee, pancakes, bacon, and eggs. Sometimes we switch it up with some bagels and lox, pastries, or a quiche. We always eat together though, with no phones around and talk. This is the most important part.

Taking the dogs for a long walk

Now that we have Auri it’s really hard for one of us to walk the dogs. Auri is still a puppy and not used to the leash so she ends up winding it around the person walking her. This annoys the walker and Tesla, our other dog. We make sure that after breakfast we make time for the dogs as well. Taking them on a long walk around the neighborhood gives us a chance to go out, explore our area and exercise the dogs.

Taking time for a bath and audiobooks

I am not usually a big fan of audiobooks, but I am a huge fan of baths and reading. I don’t trust myself not to get the book I am reading wet so turning on an audiobook is the next best thing. The bath usually consists of a bath bomb, bath salts, or bubbles (because you are never too old for bubbles!). This is a time I have for myself, no cats, dogs or husband. Just me relaxing. Trust me it is great for your mental health.

This list isn’t very long but it is something we do every weekend that is sort of becoming a tradition.  Do you have any traditions you do on the weekends?

Let’s Make Friends Update #2

Another week has past by and I am here to update you on how my friend making process is going…

Slow.

That seems to the word of words for this process. I know that it would be long and drawn out before I can meet and make anything resembling a friendship but an impatient person! Why can’t I just have a BFF overnight! Let me let the rational side of me take over before I start crying and kicking up a tantrum on the floor.

GirlFriend Social

so DB has not gotten back to me since my last update. She is currently having some personal issues so I understand if she doesn’t have time to talk to a stranger. Right now I think this is going to go no where, but I will stay positive that and hope that when she solves these issues we can continue to talk again. HF and I have been texting back and forth trying to get to know each other. We have some things in common, but it worries me that she seems like a huge health nut and I’m over here trying not to spend all my time thinking about nachos… They say opposites attract right?

HEY! Vina

I’ve ran out of people to match with, which is really disappointing. I also only matched with one person and she hasn’t tried to even contact me at all. It does say that 5 people are saying ‘Hey!’ but I cannot view who they are or know who they are because of how the app works. So disappointing. I keep checking another week before dropping this app.

Girlfriend Circles

I still think this site is a bit weird to use and much more of a networking site rather than a friendship finding site. I haven’t used it much, but I won’t drop it yet until I have actually tried to use it to find friends.

I have found 2 more apps to try making friends on

Patook

Unfortunately this does not have too many people in my area but it is easy to use. How it works is if you want too skip people you swipe them over (yes kinda like tinder) and if you do you like them. This is better than Hey! Vina because you can see who has liked you and if you want you can like back! Woo!

Bumble BFF

Most people know Bumble as a dating site, but you can also use it to find friends. This has been the most successful friendship app I have already been matched and have started conversations with a couple of people. I won’t share anything yet, because I want to see who lasts and who gets voted off the island… wait this is not survivor. I don’t even watch that show. The one thing I don’t like about Bumble is that if your matched you only have 24 hours to start a conversation or respond before it expires. That is a little weird and makes me nervous.

Let’s Make Friends Update #1

So I wanted to make sure I keep you up to date on what’s happening in my quest for making friends. I want to bring you all along for every step of the way.

First things first, I dumped FriendMatch. While they had a lot of people to choose from they didn’t have very many in my area. In fact there was only 3 and they weren’t really in the area of Idaho that I was in. So while that could have turned me off the the whole experience in general It actually spurred me to find another site and I did.

Hey! Vina

Hey! Vina is a mobile app that is pretty easy to use an reminds reminds me of tinder in the sense that you swipe if you want to skip. They also have quizzes you can take that determine your friendship personality. It’s been pretty fun so far. There are a couple of things I don’t like. First if someone sends you a “hey!” you can’t see who it is unless you send them “hey!” as well, so if someone likes your profile you don’t know unless you like them back. Another thing is that if you do match with someone they immediately encourage you to meet in person. I don’t know about you all but I want to get to know someone before meeting them.

GirlFriend Social

I’ve actually have had some success on this site. There’s two potential friends that I am talking to now. The first I will call DB. DB is having a bit of a tough time right now, and laid everything out in our first message to each other. It is somewhat refreshing so I don’t get any surprise drama, I decided to stick around in case she needs a sympathetic ear. The second one I will call HF, we have some stuff in common and although she is a bit older than me and a bit spiritual I hope it works out. HF actually gave me her phone number so I am going to try texting her today (not call, because who does that!).

Girlfriend Circles

Is still a little weird for me to use but the users are all very responsive. Hopefully I can find some people in my area. I find the site a bit tough to navigate through but I hope I will get used to it. Besides people responding to my posts I have not really gotten to know anyone personally. Hopefully this changes or it is cut from the list.

Giving online Friendship sites another try

So I decided to try again! Last time it didn’t really work as well as I wanted. I think it was partly my fault, I don’t think I applied myself as much as I wanted considering that I thought there would be a stigma involved with having to find a friend online. This time, well to be perfectly honest I could careless what people think, in the world where online dating has become the norm, why shouldn’t I use the internet to find friends?

I moved to a new area where the only person I know is my husband and it is so hard to make friends. I picked 3 sites to help me accomplish this;

Girlfriend Circles

This site is like a dumbed down twitter where you post and people can respond and hopefully you establish a connection. It’s a little weird as you need to really work and reach out. I thought this would have been good as a mobile app, but I couldn’t find one. I am not always on to be able to check but hopefully I can put myself out there.

Girlfriend Social

I am much more familar with this site since it is one I have used in the past. It works more like a dating site, where you can get matched with another women in your area and message each other if you feel you would be friends. I like this format better than GirlFriend Circles but we can see which actually helps me make friends.

FriendMatch

This one unlike the other 2 is not just limited to women, but for males too. While I am open to making friends of any gender I think I am more comfortable with meeting (right now) meeting someone of the same gender as me. This has more of a search function so you can pick the gender, age and location of the friends you want to meet. Unfortunately there were not a lot of people in my area, but we will see

So those are the sites I’m trying right now, but I will continue to try new sites and perhaps even try to start conversation outside in the real world. I’m just looking for open minded individuals who love eating and reading. I also want someone around my age 25-35. Hopefully this goes well!

Wish me Luck?

Lifestyle: Maintaining Long Distance Friendships

I have a low pool of friends, so any I get I need to keep. Since moving to Idaho I have  not really had a chance to grow relationships like I want, but I also have to remember that I still have friends back home. So I have a couple things I am doing to make sure I keep my long distance friends

Text often

I am not a phone talker. The only person I call is my mom and my husband. I am very awkward on the phone mostly because I get distracted or the phone breaks out and I end up asking or saying the same thing multiple times. Texting is easy though and a quick ‘How’s your day going?’ really does go a long way. Maintaining communication is key and you can’t get lazy. If you are forgetful set up a quick weekly alarm to make sure you check in.

Plan a Skype call

My best friend and I Skype every Friday to play board games. It’s fun and we talk and drink a little wine. While I wish we were together in person this gives us a chance to do something different while also keeping in touch. Plus we can see each other and any physical changes that can occur.

Stay active on Social Media

Honestly I don’t really like Facebook, but it is crucial when I want to stay up to date on family events and friend events. I only have Family and friends on facebook and I make sure that I keep my personal social media separate from my blogs. Not because I am ashamed of my blog, but so I can get information when I want it. Instagram and snapchat are key as well.

Video Games

I am a gamer plain and simple. I also have friends who play games. Playing MMO games are a great way to stay active with friends and open doors to meeting more people. If you don’t play games that is fine, but if you do definitely do multiplayer games.

Huntington Dog Beach

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This past weekend Tesla and I went on another adventure. Hunting Dog beach is a beach devoted to pet owners and their dogs. Usually the beaches don’t allow dogs, most likely because irresponsible pet owners, but Huntington Beach has a small section where you can let your dog bask in the sun and frolick in the waves.

Tesla wasn’t much for frolicking however. She didn’t like the water at all really, I think it’s just because it’s a new experience and she just needs to get used to it. This was the first time we let Tesla go off leash. I was so nervous about this that I made my husband stand next to her just to make sure she didn’t run off. She did really well, never straying too far and coming when called.

I was so proud of her!

xo,

Kimberly-3

Why does it offend people if I don’t eat Meat?

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So I’ve recently made a big life decision in my life. I decided to no longer eat meat. I won’t go into specifics on why I made this decision or any of my personal beliefs.

Please note that I have only been doing this for a couple of weeks, and to be honest I didn’t want to make it a big deal. I don’t go around wearing shirts that label me vegetarian, I don’t try to prosecute people who eat meat. I am pretty much silent about the whole thing in general.

Lately however I notice a lot of negativity come from the people I have mentioned it to, and I  just don’t understand it.

How does my food decisions affect anyone else but me? I’m not you, I don’t decide what you eat or what you put in your body, and I really don’t want to.

The first thing I get asked is ‘Why?’, this may seem like a harmless question and it usually can be but it’s the questions that come after it make me shake my head and then ignore you.

You don’t have to understand my reasons.

You don’t have to start listing reasons why you eat meat (I didn’t even ask.) and I am not trying to stop you.

You don’t need to give me a sarcastic “Good Luck’

You don’t need to give me all the reasons why you think I will fail, trust me I’ve already gone through them multiple times in my head.

My husband is the only person who’s opinion on this even remotely matters and guess what? He absolutely 100% supports me and my decisions, he even went so far as to look up recipes, order me food and try my meatless ‘meat’.

In conclusion what I eat and put in to my body, shouldn’t offend you. It’s not like I’m trying to eat a baby or anything.

Has anyone ever had a problem of other people being offended by something that doesn’t even affect them?

xo,

Kimberly-3