So I moved away from the apps and I am trying to connect more through texts. I figure I will try to maintain and connect more to people I have met. I have been meeting El and building our friendship which has been fun and I am so glad to have actually found someone I like. I also have met with a friend of mine from high school, can you believe that!? I’ll call her Wind and it is such a trip I haven’t seen her in over twelve years, so we are reconnecting and it seems to be going well.
I will also be meeting a couple of other girls who hopefully I can build friendships as well. Hopefully next week I can have a longer update.
So I’ve done it! I actually met with someone. I won’t lie she took the first step in asking to meet, but I still did it! We will call her El. El is into vintage style (which she pulls off so well I am actually a little jealous!). She is a part of the military, and loves food. We went for breakfast on Sunday morning, and it was awkward at first, because how the hell do you start conversations nowadays? Eventually we settled in to a comfortable conversation that had us bonding. I was nervous trying to decide on what to wear because I want make a good impression, but not seem like I tried too hard. I ended up with high waist skinny jeans, a mustard colored blouse and a blue open sweater. I completely forgot to take a picture because I was nervous and completely forgot.
We ended up chatting from 9:30 am until 3 so, I think it went well. We did exchange numbers so we just have to maintain this new, precarious friendship we built. I am thinking this Saturday a little farmer’s market date, where we can eat and walk around. Now, I just have to plan what to wear…
So I wanted to make sure I keep you up to date on what’s happening in my quest for making friends. I want to bring you all along for every step of the way.
First things first, I dumped FriendMatch. While they had a lot of people to choose from they didn’t have very many in my area. In fact there was only 3 and they weren’t really in the area of Idaho that I was in. So while that could have turned me off the the whole experience in general It actually spurred me to find another site and I did.
Hey! Vina is a mobile app that is pretty easy to use an reminds reminds me of tinder in the sense that you swipe if you want to skip. They also have quizzes you can take that determine your friendship personality. It’s been pretty fun so far. There are a couple of things I don’t like. First if someone sends you a “hey!” you can’t see who it is unless you send them “hey!” as well, so if someone likes your profile you don’t know unless you like them back. Another thing is that if you do match with someone they immediately encourage you to meet in person. I don’t know about you all but I want to get to know someone before meeting them.
I’ve actually have had some success on this site. There’s two potential friends that I am talking to now. The first I will call DB. DB is having a bit of a tough time right now, and laid everything out in our first message to each other. It is somewhat refreshing so I don’t get any surprise drama, I decided to stick around in case she needs a sympathetic ear. The second one I will call HF, we have some stuff in common and although she is a bit older than me and a bit spiritual I hope it works out. HF actually gave me her phone number so I am going to try texting her today (not call, because who does that!).
Is still a little weird for me to use but the users are all very responsive. Hopefully I can find some people in my area. I find the site a bit tough to navigate through but I hope I will get used to it. Besides people responding to my posts I have not really gotten to know anyone personally. Hopefully this changes or it is cut from the list.